In a recent blog, entitled the secret of happiness, I touch on the concept of subjective well-being, or SWB for short. Subjective well-being refers to the current assessment of a person's happiness. This includes:
• feel a sense of satisfaction with life, both in general and in specific areas such as relationships, health and employment.
• Lack of depression and anxiety.
• positive moods and emotions.
If you're unhappy at work, and / or unrealized your job (yes, there is a difference), it is tempting to point the finger at the offending parties and situations. Examples might be:
• A boss who does not take suggestions seriously.
• A subordinate who constantly undermine your authority.
• "Encounters", which instead serve as sounding boards for ideas and factor productivity are becoming ventilation sessions.
We consider these people or scenarios as obstacles to success. They are immovable obstacles preventing us from achieving our goals and, subsequently, contribute to our dissatisfaction in a very large. November fault all aspects of our existence in the workplace shows that "troublesome", "hard" or "hard."
And in doing so, we allow these people to overcome our situation. We give them the upper hand, failure of our personal power and find ourselves sinking into a pit of despair. We feel "defeated" by life forces beyond our control.
After the bottom of our subjective well-being officially struck, all becomes a vicious circle. We consider our work and our working relationship as negative, and if we approach the situation with a negative attitude. Our negative attitude leads us to adopt a passive or defensive. Because we are defensive and passive instead of active and open, we attract more negativity into our daily lives at work. And the cycle continues.
As I mentioned in my blog post on SWB, it's all in your attitude. But most people, and no question, "How am I supposed to stop bad behavior, when there are so many things can not change?"
The key is to realize that you CAN change. No, you can not change others, but you can change. It all starts with you. How would you change, you change the way people react to you. You can learn to change their behavior ... Your own people, and others.
In other words, change your approach, which, in turn, changes the way people respond to you. When you do well, you'll see that the effects of your new attitude and behavior outside of training and begin to change the situation ... but it happens very slowly, and need a great effort and repeated.
And if you really find that, after giving it your best shot, do not play things as they would like, you can get from the situation. You can leave and start tracking something that is more promising and call for you. People change jobs, jobs, careers, every day. The hardest part is committing yourself to the new company.
For more ideas on turning the workplace unhappiness over his head, read Part 2 of this series.
• feel a sense of satisfaction with life, both in general and in specific areas such as relationships, health and employment.
• Lack of depression and anxiety.
• positive moods and emotions.
If you're unhappy at work, and / or unrealized your job (yes, there is a difference), it is tempting to point the finger at the offending parties and situations. Examples might be:
• A boss who does not take suggestions seriously.
• A subordinate who constantly undermine your authority.
• "Encounters", which instead serve as sounding boards for ideas and factor productivity are becoming ventilation sessions.
We consider these people or scenarios as obstacles to success. They are immovable obstacles preventing us from achieving our goals and, subsequently, contribute to our dissatisfaction in a very large. November fault all aspects of our existence in the workplace shows that "troublesome", "hard" or "hard."
And in doing so, we allow these people to overcome our situation. We give them the upper hand, failure of our personal power and find ourselves sinking into a pit of despair. We feel "defeated" by life forces beyond our control.
After the bottom of our subjective well-being officially struck, all becomes a vicious circle. We consider our work and our working relationship as negative, and if we approach the situation with a negative attitude. Our negative attitude leads us to adopt a passive or defensive. Because we are defensive and passive instead of active and open, we attract more negativity into our daily lives at work. And the cycle continues.
As I mentioned in my blog post on SWB, it's all in your attitude. But most people, and no question, "How am I supposed to stop bad behavior, when there are so many things can not change?"
The key is to realize that you CAN change. No, you can not change others, but you can change. It all starts with you. How would you change, you change the way people react to you. You can learn to change their behavior ... Your own people, and others.
In other words, change your approach, which, in turn, changes the way people respond to you. When you do well, you'll see that the effects of your new attitude and behavior outside of training and begin to change the situation ... but it happens very slowly, and need a great effort and repeated.
And if you really find that, after giving it your best shot, do not play things as they would like, you can get from the situation. You can leave and start tracking something that is more promising and call for you. People change jobs, jobs, careers, every day. The hardest part is committing yourself to the new company.
For more ideas on turning the workplace unhappiness over his head, read Part 2 of this series.
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